CONVERSATIONS THAT MATTER FOR SPECIFIC PAINFUL LIFE EXPERIENCES (including witnessing domestic violence, being a young carer, sexual/physical abuse, neglect, multiple moves, being bullied, traumatic loss)
March 07, 2020 10:00 am
March 07, 2020 4:30 pm
with award-winning author and expert Dr Margot Sunderland
'Helping children with feelings is about opening up their capacity to take in comfort.'
About the conference
Many of the following conversational topics will be covered:
The principles of ensuring it's a conversation not a row
Conversations about loss, transitions and major life changes
Conversations about sexuality and transgender issues
Conversations about messing up in a big way (teenagers)
Conversations about anger, rage and hating people and parents
Conversations about anxiety, fear, worry
Conversations about living with parents with a mental health problem
Conversations about lying/stealing
Conversations about hopelessness/depression and suicidal ideation
Conversations about destructive behaviour and self harm
Conversations about bullying and cyberbullying
Conversations about social media and use of technology
Conversations about parents fighting quarrelling or splitting up
Conversations about sexual abuse
When faced with a child’s or teenager’s pain and suffering it can be difficult to know how to respond. How do you avoid being patronising, crass, dismissive? How do you stop yourself giving an unhelpful lecture or moving into misplaced optimism, opening up a can of worms and generally making things worse?
This topic based day will give child professionals and parents alike a wealth of resources to empower them to respond in ways that really help, leaving the child/teenager feeling deeply understood and supported. Moreover, as a result of repeated meaningful conversations like this, children and teenagers can then develop the capacity to reflect on things themselves (rather than just react), and in so doing successfully work through whatever life throws at them. This way they can go on to thrive, rather than growing up with the blight of mental ill-health.
If we don’t help children through therapeutic conversations, we will continue to see the epidemic levels of mental ill-health and human misery in society today
Benefits from attending this conference
Become more confident in addressing difficult subjects
Take away a wealth of skills for talking about the child’s or teenager’s experiences of trauma or loss
Feel far more skilled in what to say, how to attune and empathise so that the child or teenager feels understood and connected to
Help children and teenagers to reflect on their negative feelings rather than behave them and to communicate through words rather than destructive or negative acts
Learn how to have a therapeutic conversation with a child/teenager and parent/child in ways that develop the capacity for emotional regulation and mentalisation
Watch moving film showing how time with a reflective adult can bring about long-term positive change to a child’s/teenager’s brain and mind
Learn ways of talking about feelings with children and teenagers so that they can take on board the emotional complexities of a situation
Learn ways to connect with even the most defended child/teenager so that profound personal development takes place
Understand ways to not take things personally when the going gets tough but to stay reflective rather than reactive under stress
Dr Margot Sunderland
Director of Education and Training at The Centre for Child Mental Health, London. Honorary Visiting Fellow at London Metropolitan University, Associate member of The Royal College of Medicine and Child Psychotherapist with over 30 years’ experience of working with children and teenagers. Author of over 20 books in the field of child mental health. What Every Parent Needs to Know (Dorling Kindersley) won First Prize in the British Medical Association Medical Book awards 2007 (Popular Medicine section). Originator of ‘Helping Where it Hurts’, a therapy programme for troubled children in North London schools.
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