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Event Information

Event Date 05-12-2020 10:00 am
Event End Date 05-12-2020 5:00 pm
Capacity Unlimited
Registered 0
Individual Price £183.00
Location CCMH
Categories Conferences

About the conference

"Relationships go wrong all by themselves" (Professor Leslie Greenberg)

This conference will address the fact that so many good relationships break down simply through lack of resources on how to handle conflict well. Unless a person has been spectacularly lucky in having parents as great models for handling conflict, it is unlikely they will have the skills for successful conflict resolution that actually strengthens key relationships over time. And research shows that conflict avoidance is very damaging for relationships too.

Presenters will address how, when feeling threatened and hurt, unappreciated people tend to move into very primitive mechanisms: flight/flight/freeze which results in the other person moving into fight/ flight/freeze. This drives the two people apart, both reeling from feelings of shame, pain, and feeling desperately misunderstood. With some beautiful reflective work, the presenters will demonstrate how it is possible to support families, couples, parents and children to work well with conflict, to feel empowered and learn to surf conflict in an elegant way instead of living in dread of drowning in shame, contempt and attachment rupture. All the presenters are specialists in family therapy, couples counselling, conflict resolution and parent child relationships.

What you'll learn from attending?

  • Learn about the modes of transacting that damage relationships
  • Learn about the role of defences and negative interlocking triggers in causing pain in relationships
  • Learn to recognize when one party wants to punish not resolve due to "hating their partner for the original failures of their parent” (Winnicott)
  • Learn how to help parents and children, families and couples to resolve conflict well
  • Learn the skills for supporting people to be vulnerable in relationships, to voice their hurt and to know it will heard well
  • Learn how to help the different parties find the words that heal not hurt
  • Listen to moving case material where serious attachment rupture was healed with the help of a skilled facilitator
  • Take away skills for your own life on how to nurture a relationship and transact non-violently


Helene Igwebuike

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Certified Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) relationship counsellor. Many years' experience supporting couples and individuals in healing and transforming the relationship with self and partner by communicating in a different way that restores emotional closeness, physical intimacy and personal wellbeing. Helene uses an integrative model, predominantlyEFT, an experiential and systemic approach that focuses on healing and strengthening emotional bonds, as well as Rogerian Person-Centred, Psychodynamic, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) and Gerald Egan's 'The Skilled Helper' models.

Dr Janet Rose


Co-founder of Emotion Coaching UK. Trained teacher and has led research into the development of Emotion Coaching both as a parenting programme and its application in schools and community settings throughout the UK. Has worked closely with vulnerable children and young people in a range of roles, is a Level 1 Theraplay practitioner. Janet has led training in Emotion Coaching for numerous Local Authorities and organisations and is also Academic Lead for the Attachment Aware Schools Project based at Bath Spa University. She is frequently invited to be a Keynote speaker at conferences throughout the UK. Janet is also the Principal of Norland College in Bath, and was previously an Associate Professor, Reader in Education, Programme and Award Leader at Bath Spa and an Associate of Kate Cairns Associates and Early Education. She has authored numerous books, chapters and research publications. Her most recent co-authored book is Health and Wellbeing in Early Childhood.

Health and Well-being in Early Childhood

Dr Rachel Watson

Rachel Watson

Dr Rachel Watson is Director of the Institute of Family Therapy. She is an experienced systemic family psychotherapist, supervisor, trainer and leader. Rachel trained at Institute of Family Therapy, and taught on the foundation level courses between 2005-2009. Prior to taking up the post of Director she was Lead Clinician and Professional Lead for Systemic Practice in Cambridgeshire Children’s Social Care for 5 years, having worked in the service previously. She was responsible for a large team working with families across all service areas, successfully growing and sustaining an innovative service. Prior to this she worked in different areas of child and adolescent mental health services in the NHS. Rachel is interested in how systemic practice takes place using dialogue to create inclusive conversations. She completed her doctoral research at the Tavistock on this topic and has introduced the concept of Jointly Created Authority from Conversational Analysis literature, showing how examining the minutiae of talk can invite understanding of how power operates at different levels, and has recently published this work in the Journal of Family Therapy.


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